What to do if your child is being bullied at school

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by ANJANETTE FLOWERS / NBC Charlotte

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Posted on November 16, 2012 at 9:46 PM

CHARLOTTE, N.C. -- For weeks, Carmela Armengol said her six-year-old daughter, Meledy, who’s in the first grade at Thomasboro Academy in Charlotte, was bullied.

“She keeps hitting me,” said Meledy Armengol.

Her mom, who speaks Spanish, allowed a relative to translate for her.

“She said it first started when she started saying she didn’t want to go to school because she had some friends that hit, just hit people,” said Lizbeth Gijon, Armengol’s niece.

Eventually, Armengol said things got worse and a social worker showed up at her home accusing her of abusing her daughter.

“She came home with a swollen eye, that later turned black,” said Gijon.

"Parents typically don't want to see their children suffer and they've almost become obsessed with it to a degree in this day and age,” said Dr. Chris McCarthy with Carolinas Counseling Group in Charlotte.

He said the definition of bullying may be clear cut, but there’s a fine line as to what some parents may consider bullying, which can be tricky as kids learn to play nice.

"It's not a clean process,” said McCarthy.  “It's a messy process as they work on trying to figure out how to do relationships," he added.

"There's a belief that if my child is always happy, then they'll be successful in life”, said McCarthy. 

“Unfortunately, that's not necessarily the case,” he added, pointing out that “children learn a lot through suffering.”

If you believe your child is being bullied, McCarthy says to talk with them and listen to make sure you talk to school officials.

"Basically, the squeaky wheel gets the grease, meaning stay at it,” said McCarthy.

“Keep talking to the principal.  Keep sending emails,” he added.

In Armengol’s case, she said she went to school officials about three or four times.

We reached out to school officials at Thomasboro Academy.

They told NBC Charlotte they take bullying very seriously and that they’ve met with both sets of parents on several occasions and they all agreed on how the situation should be handled.

“They are in different classes, they have different lunches, they go to different recess,” said Gijon.

She added, “they don't see each other at all.”

Armengol said that has made her daughter much happier and more eager to go to school.

 

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